Can i be beautiful and fat

Instead, they run into this simple statement of fact like a burning building, looking for what they can rescue. In their minds, my body is a disaster to escape. So they rush in to rescue me from their imagined emergency. In those moments, I feel so abruptly disconnected from the friends and family who are trying their best to reassure me. Suddenly, my body is some massive chasm between us, and I am shouting over its expanse, hoping they can hear me, and they so rarely do.

The solutions are simple: I long for them to simply ask a clarifying question, to take my comments in the spirit in which they are intended, to allow me the simple right to name my own skin. I long for their love of me to overpower the assumptions they make about bodies like mine. SELF does not provide medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Any information published on this website or by this brand is not intended as a substitute for medical advice, and you should not take any action before consulting with a healthcare professional.

Aubrey Gordon writes about the social realities of life as a very fat person, previously publishing anonymously as Your Fat Friend. Read more. Embrace your natural beauty! Work it! You're beautiful! Yes No. Not Helpful 3 Helpful You may wash your body every day, but for hair, you can go two or three days without washing it. Washing your hair every day can make it unhealthy. Not Helpful 4 Helpful You can answer with a comeback or a joke to seem lighthearted or uncaring, or you can simply choose to ignore it.

It might make you feel bad or less attractive, but just remind yourself that those kind of people's opinion doesn't matter and there are people who love you regardless. Include your email address to get a message when this question is answered. Don't look in the mirror and be negative about yourself, pick out the good parts! Helpful 2 Not Helpful 0.

And remember, it's not all about looks. So pick out something that you are good at, and emphasize that. Helpful 1 Not Helpful 0. Don't compare yourself with anyone else. As long as you are yourself people will love you for that and if they don't then they are not worth knowing.

Focus on quality. A good pair of earrings or a recent hair cut can make all the difference. Do not ignore the small touches. They make a big difference too. Be beautiful from the inside. That's way more important than what you have got on the outside. Submit a Tip All tip submissions are carefully reviewed before being published.

Although being overweight is stereotyped as being unhealthy, some people are just naturally that way. Eat right and get regular exercise. Don't go on diets- there's an example of a whole industry made on making people feel inadequate. And if you really aren't eating healthy, go see a doctor about it. Helpful 68 Not Helpful Don't be over dramatic about the way you look, we all have hang-ups and you just need to learn to accept them.

Helpful 57 Not Helpful Related wikiHows How to. How to. Co-authors: The idea is that if you are not thin and you are eating a salad, you are quite obviously on a diet. These assumptions are completely incorrect but it is how our society views weight. While studies have shown that chronic obesity correlates with numerous diseases, I have discovered through my own experience that the way that weight and size are presented to the public through the media is promoting the wrong idea.

Obesity is treated like a joke and anorexia like the ideal. Being of normal size does not make you fat or in any way unhealthy.

I am not saying you should go around eating junk. Thin people can. Thin people are allowed to run around eating junk.

No one will stare at them or judge them cruelly if they do. Healthy comes naturally to those who are thin, right? Thin people who eat crap are just as likely to get diabetes, high cholesterol, and heart disease as a fat person who eats like crap. Your weight does not determine your health; eating habits do. Not in any way. Yet society does not treat these unhealthy people unkindly.

No one makes a funny joke or an inappropriate comment about them. They are not judged. Society has adopted this excuse that fat people deserve to be judged because they are unhealthy.

It is not about health. I watched this commercial the other day. At first I laughed. It took a few seconds for my brain to process exactly what I was looking at. The commercial was for a vacuum cleaner and and a fat woman was used as their model for how well the vacuum works. This way of thinking is not only damaging how we see obesity in general but it is damaging our society as a whole.

Specifically, our women and young girls. At my heaviest, I reached pounds. With my small stature, I definitely looked fat. Please remember a few things: fat does not mean disgusting. Fat does not equal unhealthy. It is not okay for you to be cruel or unkind to others because you find them unattractive. Just stop. Substance is a publication of the Mt. San Antonio College Journalism Program. The program recently moved its newsroom over to Medium as part of a one-year experiment.

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